Family has always played a big part of my life. I have always took it for granted that they will be here for me. My sister in particular, because we are pretty close. However, lately, i was thinking a fair way off into the future, to when she is going to get married. Marriage is a pretty life changing thing. From what i see in my family, it changes a person. Sometimes not for the better. Another person in you life and in your family means another responsibility. Obviously, being married, the spouse would have considerable influence over their partner. One of the things that might be influenced is how that person may later perceive their family.
I was thinking that if my sister got married, we mayn't be as close as we are now. Well, that would be inevitable. I'm a bit scared of her leaving me. I'm not very good at fully trusting people nowadays, and for me its always easiest to truest my family; to have to lessen my trust in someone so close to me would be strange, especially if it were because they were married. Its a peculiar thought because I have been told that your family will be there for you whenever and always.
Apparently not.
Recently, I found out my grandfather had another brother, a younger brother, that I didn't know about, who had died of alcoholism ,or whatever they call it, a few years back. They hadnt be acquainted with each other since they were about 20, i would think. My grandpa was going to go back and visit him, but he found out that he was dead and cancelled his trip. Its weird that my grandpa would only think of visiting him after, what, 60 years? And i thought siblings always stayed close. I have come to a conclusion that if siblings dont have anything in common, they will eventually drift, just like you drift from your 'close' friends in high school when you graduate, or close colleagues at your workplace when you leave it. At present, my sister and I are close, but that is only because of the situation. We are quite young and simple, we dont have any hopes and dreams that will be jeopardised by each other; we basically stay out of each other's hair. Hence all is well.
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wow how interesting to find you have another brother when your like old.
but yehh familyl is important even they might be the ones who pisses you off sometimes.
Carmsn, don't scare yourself! I know, it's like a life 'precaution' to yourself (if that even makes sense) but I think that if you make the effort to be close with your sister now (or even closer than you are now) and maintain a good relationship into the future, you won't be 'estranged' from each other.
It might seem a bit mean, but your grandfather's story could act as a moral to you. History can repeat itself, but humans always learn from their mistakes in the past. Hence, you can learn from your grandfather's mistake and keep your good relationship with your lil sis.
No matter what, family is family, and family bonds will always be the tighest bond there is. Remember that, my dear, and you shall do well :)
yeah, i got re-reminded:) of that today. we were talking about king lear haha and then his catharsis about him being wrong that cordelia really loved him and that :) im not exactly scared, but its something i will keep in mind.
There's a big, complex argument around the question of friends vs family vs being a loner. It's one I've been forced to consider many times, and there are no simple answers. I've come to the conclusion that the most important things is to know yourself, be comfortable with it, and accept the inevitability of change. It happens daily. Then you ride the winds of life and touch base wherever and whenever is appropriate to you.
You've no idea how long this comment could have been. The search never ends. It isn't supposed to. Accept that, and you don't go under.
Sorry, this isn't meant to be a lecture, just an offering.
Oh my....that's always been a big concern with me too....except it's been at the back of my mind.
me and my sister are close but I don't know how long that will last. I always have this nagging feeling that once she finds the one she loves, she will fully go into her relationship and forget about me. And all i'll be is a distant memory that she will meet with every now and then and that will be it.
But i really hope that that doesn't happen for either of us.
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